Squirting starts with the right amount of g-spot stimulation.
Read on as we explore how to make a woman squirt.
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Note: Read the whole article or scroll down to the KEY TAKEAWAYS section at the end of this article for a short summary.
What Happens When a Woman Squirts?
When some women orgasm, there is the fluid released from their Skene’s glands, which are the glands that surround the female G-spot, causing them to ‘squirt’.
During sex or manual stimulation of a woman’s vulva, it’s possible to experience an involuntary release of fluid during female ejaculation. This phenomenon is widely known as squirting.
When some women orgasm, there is the fluid released from their Skene’s glands, which are the glands that surround the female G-spot, causing them to ‘squirt’.
The common misconception is that this fluid is urine.
Although there is no agreement among sexual health professionals as to what squirt is made of, a research has found that the fluid is ‘chemically different from urine’.
How It Works
The theory is that during sexual arousal, the Skene’s glands fill with fluid, and then during orgasm, the pelvic floor muscles contract, putting pressure on the tissues of the urethra, causing the fluids to release.
Research notes that anywhere between 10-54% of women are capable of squirting during orgasm!
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When the focus of a sexual experience relies on a woman squirting, the pressure can hinder her relaxation and enjoyment altogether.
For the women who are intrigued by the phenomena and are looking to elevate their orgasmic sex game, squirting is possible to learn!
All you need is a partner willing to experiment with your senses and guide you into the tantalizing exploration of squirting.
Here is your ultimate step-by-step guide for making a girl squirt.
1. Manage your Expectations
For women, having an orgasm, let alone being able to squirt, comes with its own set of pressures!
When the focus of a sexual experience relies on a woman squirting, the pressure can hinder her relaxation and enjoyment altogether. It can make it quite difficult for her to fully immerse into the sexual exploration to be able to have an orgasm naturally.
Sex educator, writer, and coach Lola Jean recommends that everyone avoid the idea that they can “make” anyone do anything in a sexual context. It’s up to our bodies to allow specific experiences to happen, so managing this expectation is crucial.
Approaching sex with an open mind, focusing on the sensations along the journey rather than the destination, and learning to explore one another can minimize any feelings of disappointment.
2. Level up Arousal with Foreplay
The only way to help our partners achieve an explosive orgasm is by building arousal.
Foreplay is the best way to help build arousal and anticipation, both of which are essential in priming the body for sexual intercourse.
When women are adequately aroused, their vaginal lubrication increases, the clitoris becomes engorged, and the vaginal walls begin to relax. All of these changes are what help make sex more comfortable for her, facilitating a more pleasurable orgasmic experience.
Begin by kissing her slowly and deeply, using your hands to caress her skin. Trace her figure with the tips of your fingers, guiding your touch from her waist up to her nipples. Allow the passion and sexual pleasure to build up slowly and deliberately.
Eventually, you can make your way down to her vulva.
AASECT-certified sex therapist Dr. Jenni Skyler suggests a full vulva exploration, from inside to out, to discover which areas have the greatest erotic potential.
With a lubricated finger, begin by stimulating the outer edges of her vulva, working your way from her outer lips to the inner, more intimate areas. With a finger or your tongue, begin giving her clitorial stimulation to edge her closer to an orgasm. This heightened state of arousal is a pivotal feature of squirting as it helps build her excitement toward the final release.
Remember, longer foreplay can provide more ample time for arousal to build, increasing her likelihood of reaching orgasm and squirting.
Some other tantalizing methods of foreplay include:
- Giving a sensual or tantric massage, focusing on relaxing your partner’s muscles while gradually building anticipation for intercourse
- Expressing your deepest desires and fantasies through dirty talk to inspire arousal and excitement
- Practicing deep, synchronized breathing exercises to enhance intimacy and relaxation, helping to intensify her sexual experience
- Blindfolding your partner and using different textures, temperatures, and pressure to surprise and excite their senses
- Performing a strip tease for your partner, enticing them to want to rip off your clothes
3. Focus On Her G-Spot
Once your partner has sufficient arousal, it’s time to narrow in on her G-spot.
The woman’s G-spot area is located on the front wall of the vagina, roughly 1-2 inches inside. Filled with nerve endings and erectile tissues, the G-spot is known as a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone that, when stimulated, can lead to intense sexual pleasure, orgasm, and possibly even squirting!
The best way to apply pressure to her G-spot is by using a finger, penis, or sex toy.
However, when it comes to making your woman squirt, it’s less about what you do and more about how you do it.
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Lube can help prevent friction during different sex acts, from foreplay to sex.
The most important thing to facilitate her comfort in receiving pleasure is lubrication. Although foreplay was necessary to start the engine, it’s natural for women’s lubrication levels to rise and fall throughout a single sexual session.
Lube can help prevent friction during different sex acts, from foreplay to sex. It can help heighten sensation by allowing smooth and natural movement, making physical touch and penetration more pleasurable.
Having either a silicone or water-based lube handy can help you add to her pleasure while stimulating her G-spot.
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The classic missionary position is one of the best angles you can get.
Next, it’s important to get into a sexual position that helps stimulate her G-spot with ease.
Due to the location of this erogenous zone, the angle and depth of penetration determine how much pressure is sensed by her erectile tissues.
The top 5 sex positions for G-spot stimulation include:
1. Missionary
The classic missionary position is one of the best angles you can get.
While in this position, the man’s penis is tilted slightly upwards, which hits the G-spot on the upper vaginal wall just right.
How to do it:
- Have your partner lie on her back, opening her legs wide
- Facing her, crawl between her legs and slide inside of her in this position
- Place your hands or elbows on the bed above her shoulders to support your body as you thrust
2. Launch pad
The launch pad is another great sex position that can get you deep inside of her at just the right angle for squirting.
This position is especially beneficial for less well-endowed men or those who do not have a natural curve-shaped penis.
How to do it:
- Have your partner lie on her back and lift her legs to your chest
- Kneeling in front of her, place her feet on your chest, lifting her hips upwards
- Slide inside of her and hold her hips for support as you penetrate deeply
3. Doggy style
Doggy is another oldie but a goodie, and it works like a charm to make her squirt. The depth of penetration mixed with the low angle of her back makes for the perfect combination for orgasm.
How to do it:
- Have your partner kneeling on her hands and knees facing away from you
- Kneel behind her, placing your legs between hers as you enter inside of her
- Use her hips to pull her in close as your thrust
4. Double decker
The double-decker is an excellent position for her to receive more pleasure during sex. Though this position relies heavily on having a good balance, it’s something worth practicing.
How to do it:
- Lying flat on your back, have your partner straddle you, facing away from you
- Slowly pull her body back so she is lying on your chest (back to chest)
- Her legs can either be flexed in a kneeling position, extended forward, or with her feet flat on the ground on either side of your legs
5. Crab walk
The crab sex position is one of the top erotic positions that helps target her G-spot. Remember that this position requires both a bit of penile flexibility and balance.
How to do it:
- Lying flat on your back, have your partner sit her hips down on top of you, facing toward you
- With her feet on either side of your shoulders, have her place both hands behind her either on your legs or on the bed for support
- The more she leans back, the better the angle for penetration
Spice It Up with Some Sex Toys
Even toys meant for clitoral stimulation can help heighten arousal and help her achieve an orgasm more readily.
Sex toys are an excellent accessory that can help you get your girl to squirt.
The design of most toys is to stimulate the G-spot manually, such as using a G-spot vibrator, curved dildo, or G-spot wand.
Even toys meant for clitoral stimulation can help heighten arousal and help her achieve an orgasm more readily.
The purpose is to help target erogenous zones, introduce a new dimension to sexual activity, and help overcome certain physical limitations you may be up against during sex to aid in orgasm (and squirting).
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…be prepared to pull out so that you avoid blocking her fluids from squirting out!
Last but certainly not least, it’s important to time your pull out when she is about to orgasm.
As arousal builds, and you notice your partner is climbing towards an explosive orgasm, be prepared to pull out so that you avoid blocking her fluids from squirting out!
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What is squirting?
Also known as female ejaculation, squirting is the fluid that is expelled from the woman’s body around the time of her orgasm.
Do all women squirt?
Research has found that 10 to 54% of women can squirt during an orgasm.
Why do women squirt?
Sex experts believe squirting happens when a woman’s G-spot is stimulated, triggering a female orgasm.
Although only some women are physically capable of squirting, training the body to make it happen is possible.
Can women learn to squirt?
Using the proper technique, all vulva owners can learn how to squirt.
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- Squirting is a very natural part of the female orgasm that nearly half the population of women can achieve
- The cornerstone of squirting is all about G-spot stimulation
- While not all women can experience it naturally, you can help your partner get there by using the right techniques, form, and pull out timing