Discover practical tips and techniques to prolong your sexual stamina, enhance endurance, and elevate your overall sexual experience, regardless of whether premature ejaculation is a concern.
A man and a woman are smiling as she whispers tips on how to last longer in bed to his left ear.

Are you tired of feeling embarrassed or disappointed because you can't seem to last long enough in bed?

You are not alone.

Premature ejaculation is a common and often frustrating problem many men face.

But don't worry; there are things you can do to improve your stamina and endurance to control your ejaculation release time better.

In this article, we'll explore some tips and techniques to help you last longer in bed if rapid ejaculation is in the way of enjoying a more fulfilling sex life.

Note: Read the whole article or scroll down to the KEY TAKEAWAYS section at the end of this article for a short summary.

FAQs:

  • Based on current research in sexual medicine, the average intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT) is short of 6 minutes.
  • Erectile dysfunction (ED) refers to the inability to achieve or maintain an erection. On the other hand, premature ejaculation (PE) describes a lack of control over the time it takes to orgasm during sex or masturbation.
  • A combination of physical problems, chemical or hormonal imbalances, and emotional or psychological disturbances may cause premature ejaculation.
  • Many practical ways exist to treat premature ejaculation and help men achieve an extended, more satisfying sexual experience for both. Some beneficial strategies include delay sprays, pelvic floor exercises, edging techniques, sex therapy, and meditation. Read on to find out more.
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A Brief Explanation of Premature Ejaculation

In medicine, premature ejaculation is a type of male sexual dysfunction where ejaculation happens earlier than a man or their partner wants, resulting in frustration.

According to data from a study published in the American Journal of Men's Health, premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction, affecting anywhere between 30-50% of the male population.

According to certified sex therapist Laurie Watson, a man may experience either lifelong premature ejaculation, which arises during their first sexual encounter and persists for years afterward, or acquired premature ejaculation, which occurs suddenly later in life.

In each of these cases, there are three things premature ejaculation has in common:
  1. Ejaculation happens within 1-2 minutes of penile-vaginal intercourse,
  2. A man is unable to delay ejaculation during all (or most) sexual encounters, and
  3. Negative personal consequences are involved that cause distress (i.e. sexual performance anxiety, depression, embarrassment, shame, etc.)

No matter how you experience premature ejaculation, we aim in this article to provide practical tips and solutions to help you last longer in bed.

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How to Last Longer in Bed

1. Use Desensitizing Sprays

According to a study on the effects of Steady Freddy Lidocaine-based pump spray, participants with premature ejaculation demonstrated a significant improvement in ejaculatory control

One of the most significant issues that cause men to ejaculate prematurely is the heightened sensations they experience during penetrative intercourse.

The best way to control this is by desensitizing the penis before sex.

Delay Sprays are a safe and effective desensitizing product that helps treat premature ejaculation. A quality delay spray works by temporarily desensitizing the targeted area of a penis to help prolong sexual activity.

According to a study on the effects of Steady Freddy Lidocaine-based pump spray, participants with premature ejaculation demonstrated a significant improvement in ejaculatory control (lasting more than 2 minutes), increased quality of sexual experience, and higher overall sexual satisfaction when using the delay spray.

The two tables below depict a couple of interesting findings from the study.

Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time (IELT) in Both Placebo and Treatment Groups Post 4 Weeks of Treatment. IELT Was Self-Reported and Recorded Via Online Participant Questionnaire
Figure 1: Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time (IELT) in Both Placebo and Treatment Groups Post 4 Weeks of Treatment. IELT Was Self-Reported and Recorded Via Online Participant Questionnaire. Source: Steady Freddy Delay Spray clinical trial study.
Overall Sexual Satisfaction in Both Placebo and Treatment Groups Post 4 Weeks of Treatment. IELT Was Self-Reported and Recorded Via Online Participant Questionnaire. Note:  IELT (Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time).
Figure 2: Overall Sexual Satisfaction in Both Placebo and Treatment Groups Post 4 Weeks of Treatment. IELT Was Self-Reported and Recorded Via Online Participant Questionnaire. Note: IELT (Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time). Source: Steady Freddy Delay Spray clinical trial study.

Climax control condoms are another beneficial product used to help men prolong ejaculation. Though not as effective like delay sprays, desensitizing condoms combine a layer of protection with a topical numbing agent placed inside the condom) to help reduce penile sensation during intercourse.

Note: Steady Freddy Delay Spray is condom compatible. So you can create a climax-control condom from a regular condom. Simply apply the spray before putting on a condom.

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2. Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

Identify your pelvic floor muscles by squeezing your pelvic area as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine

Did you know the pelvic floor muscles play an essential role in sexual function?

As seen in the diagram below, most of our pelvic muscles attach directly to the base of the penis. They can either help or hinder a man's ejaculatory threshold, depending on their strength.

Kegel exercises benefits
Kegel exercises - strengthen the urinary sphincter and other muscles that control ejaculation. (Credit: SteadyFreddy®)

A proven method of pelvic floor muscle rehabilitation is accomplished through kegel exercises.

Kegel Exercises work to improve erectile function and resolve issues of premature ejaculation.

How to do it:

  • Identify your pelvic floor muscles by squeezing your pelvic area as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine
  • Flex these muscles for 3-5 seconds
  • Relax these muscles for 3-5 seconds
  • Repeat the kegel exercise 10 times in a row, 3 times per day

3. Experiment With Edging

Right before the brink of orgasm, stop all forms of stimulation

Edging is a popular technique among men and women to heighten the pleasure and sensation of an orgasm.

For men looking to last longer in bed, edging can be a helpful way to delay ejaculation.

How to do it:

  • Stimulate yourself or have your partner stimulate you to build arousal
  • Right before the brink of orgasm, stop all forms of stimulation
  • Wait 30 seconds or until you feel the urge to ejaculate passes
  • Continue stimulation as per usual
  • Repeat this cycle 2-3 times in a single session to build endurance

4. Learn the Pause-Squeeze Technique

Squeeze for several seconds or until the urge to climax passes before continuing with any sexual stimulation

Like edging, the pause-squeeze technique can help you control ejaculation and allow you to continue enjoying the pleasurable sensations of sexual intercourse for longer.

This method operates by inducing a contraction in the bulbospongiosus muscle, which is one among several muscles in the pelvic floor. Refer to the image below depicting the cluster of male pelvic floor muscles. This contraction aids in inhibiting the ejaculation urge.

Male pelvic floor muscles strengthening with kegel exercises.
Male Pelvic Floor Muscles - 1. Body of Penis, 2. Bulbospongiosus Muscle, 3. Perineal Membrane, 4. Perineal Body, 5. External Anal Sphinster Muscle, 6. Rectal Canal, 7. Pubococcygeus Muscle, 8. Levator Ani Muscle, 9. Sacrum, 10. Iliac Crests Credit: SteadyFreddy®

How to do it:

  • Begin by stimulating yourself or have your partner stimulate you to build arousal
  • Before ejaculating, pause for a moment and squeeze the tip of your penis firmly with your thumb and forefinger where the head joins the shaft
  • Squeeze for several seconds or until the urge to climax passes before continuing with any sexual stimulation
  • Repeat this technique 2-3 times in a single-sex session
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5. Focus On Foreplay

Foreplay can be an underrated and incredibly pleasurable form of sexual activity that doesn't require much physical stimulation to enjoy.

Shifting the focus off yourself and onto your partner is an excellent way not only to delay ejaculation but deepen your intimate connection and create greater mutual satisfaction in bed.

Foreplay can be an underrated and incredibly pleasurable form of sexual activity that doesn't require much physical stimulation to enjoy.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin explains that "so many heterosexual pairings overemphasize intercourse, even though it's the activity that places the most pressure on someone with ejaculatory timing issues".

Rather than diving straight into the deep end of penetrative sex, warm up with oral sex, manual stimulation, or a sensual tantric massaging. You can even spice things up a notch by trying out a new sex toy, intimacy game, or dirty talk.

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6. Try Different Sex Positions

As you experience a spike in arousal, take that as a cue to switch things up by experimenting with a new sex position.

This one depends on his preferences during sex, as certain positions may be more or less stimulating than others.

As you experience a spike in arousal, take that as a cue to switch things up by experimenting with a new sex position.

Here are some of our favorite positions to help lower sexual excitement.

Spooning

With the man lying behind his partner, the man will enter his partner slowly, angling his slightly up.

Spooning sex position, a man lay behind her, facing the same direction, his hips behind hers.
Spooning Sex Position. Credit: Steady Freddy®

This position makes it difficult to perform deep penetration and instead focuses on grinding. Shorter strokes can help target the woman's G-spot and can bring her to orgasm much sooner.

Non-Penetrative Missionary

The non-penetrative missionary position focuses solely on female pleasure.

Missionary Grind sex position, she's lying on her back and he uses his hips to grind his pelvis into her body in a slow, circular motion.
Missionary Grind Sex Position. Credit: Steady Freddy®

Similar to how you would assume the regular missionary position (man on top of the woman, facing one another), only instead of penetrating her, you'll rub the back of your erect penis against her vulva and clitoris.

Using a few drops of lubricant, you'll give yourself and your female partner incredible sexual satisfaction without ever having to ejaculate.

Side-to-Side

Laying on your side facing your partner, the man can achieve shallow penetration, which helps delay ejaculation and lead to longer, more pleasurable sex sessions.

Side-by-Side sex position with a man lying down facing her partner and she puts her top leg over your hips to rest.
Side-by-Side Sex Position. Credit: Steady Freddy®

The side-to-side position can give you control over the depth of thrusting, meaning that you can limit how much pleasure you're willing to experience. It's also an excellent position for passionate kissing, caressing, and nipple play.

Cowgirl

With the man lying on his back or seated upright, the woman can straddle on top and control the depth and pace of penetration.

 Modified Cowgirl sex position, the man is lying flat and she straddles on top of his body with one leg on either side of his hips.
Modified Cowgirl Sex Position. Credit: Steady Freddy®

The modified cowgirl position perfectly combines shallow penetration, low complexity, and total-body relaxation.

The cowgirl position is one of the best for a man to relinquish total penetration control. Remember, it's essential to make sure your partner knows to limit your pleasure while she's riding on top.

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7. Go for Round Two

If your partner doesn't have the time or energy to go for two rounds, it can be equally effective to masturbate before your next sex session.

If the first attempt to delay ejaculation was unsuccessful, don't get discouraged!

Sex and relationship expert Dr. Stephen Snyder suggests going for round two to lower excitement levels and prolong orgasm and pleasure.

Immediately after orgasm, you'll reach a refractory period, which describes the time a man is either physiologically unable to achieve an erection or psychologically disinterested in sex (or both).

Spend this time cuddling, talking, or kissing to help increase sexual arousal, hoping to stimulate an erection for the next round of penetrative sex.

If your partner doesn't have the time or energy to go for two rounds, it can be equally effective to masturbate before your next sex session.

8. Engage in Regular Physical Exercise

cardiovascular exercises such as running, biking, or swimming are all shown to have a positive effect on reducing high blood pressure, improving oxygen transport, and increasing energy and stamina

Regular exercise is integral to achieving and maintaining a harder, longer-lasting erection.

Since sex is a type of endurance workout, being in better shape can help improve our sexual health and functioning.

For example, cardiovascular exercises such as running, biking, or swimming are all shown to have a positive effect on reducing high blood pressure, improving oxygen transport, and increasing energy and stamina - all of which are advantageous to improving blood flow to the genitals for a healthy erection.

Not to mention, maintaining a toned, fit, and healthy physique can play a beneficial role in improving our mental health by lowering anxiety levels and boosting self-esteem and confidence.

9. Practice Mindful Meditation

Focus on the actual sensations rather than the meaning behind these sensations

Meditation helps us understand and unpack the emotions attached to premature ejaculation, giving us more control over our sex lives.

Medical professional and healthcare provider Dr. Aimee Paik suggests mindful meditation to build a greater mind-body connection.

How to get started with mindful meditation:

  • Start by sitting still in a chair, on a bed, or the floor for 10-15 minutes
  • During this time, close your eyes and begin a deep breathing exercise (inhale for 5 seconds, exhale for 3 seconds) as you guide your attention to various areas in your body
  • As you do this, ask yourself "what do I feel", "what sensations am I experiencing?", and so on
  • Focus on the actual sensations rather than the meaning behind these sensations
  • If your mind begins to wander, gently bring it back and focus solely on these sensations

In time, the practice of mindful meditation can help you discover and familiarize yourself with the sensations related to sexual stimulation and potentially help you address your symptoms related to premature ejaculation.

10. Distract Yourself During Sex

Switching your focus can help stop you from becoming overly excited.

Oftentimes, men who struggle with premature ejaculation allow their thoughts to spin out of control with questions of "am I performing ok?", "Is my partner feeling pleasure?", or of course, the classic mantra of "don't finish, don't finish, don't finish".

That's where the art of distraction comes in.

One study has found that some men have discovered success in distracting their minds from sex to help themselves delay ejaculation. The method is easy. During sex, focus on something non-erotic such as algebra, flying a kite, or eating pasta. Switching your focus can help stop you from becoming overly excited.

Remember, this strategy can cause some men to experience weaker erections or lose them altogether, despite still being sexually aroused.

11. Incorporate Fun Sex Toys

Focusing on our partner's pleasure not only helps them enjoy sex more, but it can redirect your sexual energy to keep you from ejaculating early.

When we think of 'sex', it's normal to think of a type of penetrative intercourse. However, this is quite limiting - especially for vulva owners!

As shown in the table below according to a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy conducted on a group of 1,055 women ages 18 to 94, researchers found that only a small percentage of women can achieve an orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone.

Achieving Orgasm Via Percentage of Women
Vaginal stimulation 18%
Clitoral stimulation 82%

According to a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, researchers found that only 18% of women can achieve an orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. That means 82% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach their O.

Focusing on our partner's pleasure not only helps them enjoy sex more, but it can redirect your sexual energy to keep you from ejaculating early.

Sex toys offer more opportunities for sexual exploration. Try using a blindfold and handcuffs on your partner. At the same time, you give her oral or play around with a vibrator while performing slow or shallow penetration.

12. Modify Your Diet

You can select either over-the-counter supplements or find these nutrients in whole foods by eating more shellfish (i.e. oysters, crab, mussels, etc.), nuts and seeds, legumes, grains, and yogurt.

Often, what we consume regularly can either help or hinder our sexual performance — especially for men experiencing premature ejaculation.

Among the beneficial foods men use to last longer in bed, zinc and magnesium-rich options have the best results!

Rather than jumping straight to drug treatment, nutritional therapist Andrea Bartels suggests zinc and magnesium supplementation address sexual dysfunction by increasing testosterone, boosting libido, and even improving prostate function.

Foods Nutrient/Mineral Portion (100g)
Chia Seeds Magnesium 335 mg
Cashew Nuts Magnesium 292 mg
Spinach Magnesium 79 mg
Almonds Magnesium 270 mg
Pumpkin Seeds Magnesium 550 mg
Dark Chocolate Magnesium 228 mg
Ginger Magnesium 43 mg
Bananas Magnesium 27 mg
Avocados Magnesium 29 mg

A few examples of foods that are high in Magnesium that is essential for optimal sexual functioning. Deficiency can have a negative impact on male sexual performance.

You can select either over-the-counter supplements or find these nutrients in whole foods by eating more shellfish (i.e. oysters, crab, mussels, etc.), nuts and seeds, legumes, grains, and yogurt.

13. Speak to a Sex Therapist

Address underlying psychological causes of premature ejaculation (i.e. stress, sexual performance anxiety, self-esteem or confidence issues, etc.)

Sexologist and medical expert Dr. Yuvraj Arora Monga explains that most issues that interfere with your intimate life may be resolved when discussed openly.

Behavioral therapy offers an excellent opportunity for couples and individuals to air their concerns, sources of stress, or anxiety to help resolve premature ejaculation.

Behavioral therapy can help you:

  • Discover the root cause of your sexual dysfunction
  • Address underlying psychological causes of premature ejaculation (i.e. stress, sexual performance anxiety, self-esteem or confidence issues, etc.)
  • Offer techniques and personalized exercises that can help you "unlearn" habits of premature ejaculation to prolong pleasure in the bedroom

Another beneficial option to consider is couples counseling.

During these sessions, you and your partner will be encouraged to explore issues as a couple to discover and resolve what may be discouraging intimacy in the bedroom.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • Premature ejaculation is a common and treatable sexual dysfunction that affects 30-50% of men at some point in their lives.
  • It's normal that men who experience premature ejaculation feel disappointed with their sexual performance and want to learn how to last longer in bed.
  • There are no one-fits-all approach but the expert-recommended tips in this article are here to help you take back control of your sexual confidence and help you last longer in bed.
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    Certified sex therapist Laurie Watson https://lauriewatson.com
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    Sex therapist Vanessa Marin https://vmtherapy.com
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    Sex and relationship expert Dr. Stephen Snyder https://www.sexualityresource.com
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    Medical professional and healthcare provider Dr. Aimee Paik https://www.salinasvalleyhealth.com/find-a-provider/aimee-s-paik-md/
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Medical Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not intended to give medical advice or substitute for the medical advice of a physician.

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