Your Guide to Tantric Massage for You and Your Partner

Tantra massages can unlock new levels of desire, heighten your sexual energy, and stimulate more intimacy, romance, and emotional connection within your relationship.

What is Tantric Massage?

Though some techniques used with tantric massage are not necessarily sexual, they help us overcome emotional blocks and promote physical healing.

Tantric massage is the practice of creating sexual energy through intentional massaging techniques to help enhance pleasure, arousal, and intimate connection.

This sensual massage stimulates the whole body, specifically focusing on sensitive areas such as the penis and vulva. Though tantric involves massaging, it also incorporates mindfulness elements such as breathwork, meditation, and eye contact to drive us into a state of mental presence.

Though some techniques used with tantric massage are not necessarily sexual, they help us overcome emotional blocks and promote physical healing. As a bonus, it can potentially give us a full-body energy orgasm.

Benefits of a Tantric Massage

Tantric massage may play a role in resolving symptoms of dysfunction, including erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

There are plenty of impressive health benefits associated with tantra massage.

Like meditative practices, this type of massage helps build sexual energy, allowing it to flow freely from within to promote greater levels of relaxation.

As a result, tantric massage is incredibly beneficial in clearing emotional blockages that may hinder us from experiencing more intense pleasure.

In other words, the mindfulness aspect of tantric massage can help both men and women overcome their insecurities to discover a deeper intimate connection with their partners – both emotionally and physically.

Tantric massage expert Ulrike Liehm explains that the power of tantra is "helping people unfold their true potential and connect to the essence of their being".

According to medical experts, 1 in 3 men suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction in their lifetime. Tantric massage may play a role in resolving symptoms of dysfunction, including erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

What Happens at Tantra Massage?

Instead, the focus should be on the slow and intentional desire to lean into the pleasurable experience of emotional connection.

During a tantric massage, couples use their hands to give a sensual full-body massage, focusing more on genital stimulation.

The use of breathwork, meditation, eye contact, and other energy work is combined with the massage to achieve heightened awareness to emphasize the immersive nature of tantric.

Even though the stimulation achieved during an erotic massage is incredibly pleasurable, orgasm is not the goal.

Instead, the focus should be on the slow and intentional desire to lean into the pleasurable experience of emotional connection.

For couples looking to heighten their sexual exploration, tantric massage is an excellent method of foreplay to engage the senses, stimulate arousal, and lead to more erotic forms of stimulation, such as tantric sex.

How to Breath Tantrically

Exhale deeply and bring conscious attention to the energy building within your belly.

One of the reasons tantric massage works so well to bring inner peace and calmness to the body is through breathwork.

As a form of meditation, breathwork can help free your mind from stress and insecurity, draw blood into the genitals, and synchronize your body to your partner's during the massage.

Here are some tips to help you start breathing tantrically:

• Sit upright on a comfortable surface facing your partner
• Exhale deeply and bring conscious attention to the energy building within your belly
• Close your mouth and inhale softly through your nose
• Hold your breath for 5-7 seconds
• Exhale entirely for 8-10 seconds through your mouth
• Repeat this exercise until relaxed

What are Tantra Massage Techniques?

Two common forms of tantric massage that focus more on our most intimate areas include the yoni and lingam.

1. Lingam Massage (for men)

Use the edging technique by pulling back just before they climax to help induce higher levels of desire.

The lingam massage is a tantric technique performed on men that focuses on massaging the penis. This form of erotic massage builds arousal and sexual pleasure through massaging and stroking the penis with a combined focus on stimulating the testicles, perineum, and prostate gland (also known as the "Sacred Spot").

Compared to a hand job, the lingam massage is not intended to achieve a single orgasm but rather an explorative sexual experience that creates multiple orgasms in minutes.

How to perform a lingman massage:

• Begin by having the receiving partner lay back in a comfortable position with their knees bent and legs slightly apart
• As a couple, practice slow, intentional breathing exercises to help sync up your energy and encourage a deeper level of relaxation
• Using a couple of drops of massage oil to lubricate the penis, start the massage by sliding your hands up the thighs, towards the pubic bone
• Use the palm of your hands to massage the testicles in a light pulsating pattern gently
• Slowly move towards the shaft and begin to massage starting with one hand, varying your grip, pressure, and movement pattern
• Pay attention to their physical body language as you edge them toward an orgasm
• Use the edging technique by pulling back just before they climax to help induce higher levels of desire
• Keep them on the edge for as long as they can handle, only allowing them to climax when they are ready

2. Yoni Massage (for women)

After a few minutes, move to the vulva and begin stimulating the clitoris, using a combination of circulating, pushing, pulling, rolling, and tapping motions.

The yoni massage constitutes another tantra technique designed to elicit stimulation within the female body./p>

Yoni massage therapy intends to bring feelings of comfort and confidence and help women better understand what feels good./p>

By blending precise massaging methods for the vulva and vagina with mindful breathing exercises, the yoni massage releases tension in both the mind and body.

How to perform it:

• Begin by having the receiving partner lay back in a comfortable position
• Have them place their feet on the ground with their knees up and legs wide, placing a pillow under their hips
• Guide them in connecting to their breath to help stimulate total mind and body relaxation
• Warm up with a body massage to slowly build arousal – make sure to pay closer attention to the many female erogenous zones, including the neck, breast, inner thighs, and feet
• After a few minutes, move to the vulva and begin stimulating the clitoris, using a combination of circulating, pushing, pulling, rolling, and tapping motions
• You can also use 1-2 fingers inside the vagina to stimulate a G-spot massage
• As your partner gets close to orgasm, pull away for a moment to build suspense through the practice of edging

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