Your Guide to Kinky Sex With Practical Ideas

Kinky sex is a fun and pleasurable way to explore your wild and erotic sexual desires.

From role-playing to public humiliation, kinks can be as imaginative as you want – so long as it inspires a more thrilling sex life for you and your partner.

Read on to find expert-recommended tips and techniques for kinky sex that can help enhance your sexual gratification.

What Is Kinky Sex?

The word kink describes a non-conventional sexual practice or fantasy that one or more people choose to experience for pleasure.

In contrast to regular or "vanilla" sex, kinky sex encompasses all forms of consensual intimacy, including role-play, dirty talk, power dynamics, cuckolding and humiliation play.

As a form of animalistic sex, kinky sex can be rough, dominating, erotic as well as pleasurable. Although there is some stigmatization surrounding the practice of kink and BDSM, there is a large kink community to represent the acceptance of all styles of kinky sex.

The Difference Between Kink and Fetish

As common forms of sexual interest, a kink and a fetish are often used interchangeably. Although similar, there is one significant difference.

On the one hand, a kink describes a person's level of sexual pleasure and arousal from a non-conventional thing or activity without being dependent on it.

For example, you may have a kink for touching or licking feet during sex, but you don't fetishize it every time you have sex.

On the other hand, a fetish requires interaction with a thing or activity to make someone sexually aroused. In this case, someone who fetishizes feet would prefer to interact more with feet for their sexual satisfaction.

Kink Sex Tips

Before diving straight into the deep end of kinky sex, remember a few things to have a safe and enjoyable experience.

Communication Your Boundaries

Having an open and honest discussion about the types of kinky sex you're interested in can set you up for success in the bedroom.

Before engaging in kinky sex, it's essential to communicate your boundaries and discuss what sexual activities are both on and off the table.

There's no right or wrong way to explore a kink, so long as you have healthy communication and create boundaries in advance.

Establish a Safe Word

Establishing a safe word is essential to practicing kinky sex or BDSM. Although you may have expressed your sexual boundaries in advance, a safe word works to revoke your consent at that moment.

Common safe words:

• Red
• Pinneaple
• Banana
• Peach
• Vanilla
• Unicorn

You can also establish multiple safe words, such as "yellow" to slow down and "red" to stop entirely.

Embrace Your Kink

When you block out the outsiders or "kink-shamers", you can free your mind from stigmatizations and fully embrace your kink.

Sex therapists and experts agree that when we let go of these limitations, we are more willing to immerse ourselves in the experience and discover more pleasure along the way.

Trusting yourself and your partner can create a safe space for surrender. Ultimately, this can help you unblock any sexual frustrations, develop more self-confidence and form a deeper connection with your partner.

Kinky Sex Ideas

When it comes to sex, a little kink can go a long way for your pleasure.

Here are some of the most riveting kinky sex ideas to help you explore your deepest, most animalistic sexual fantasies.

Bondage and Discipline

Bondage and discipline represent the first two letters of BDSM, which is the consensual power exchange between two or more individuals using physical restraints. The act of bondage or being restrained will limit your freedom of movement and surrender your control to your partner.

Sex expert Dr. Laura Berman [1] suggests that couples start slowly with light bondage using a silk scarf or a tie.

Once the trust is built between two individuals, you can begin exploring more intense versions of bondage and discipline by giving orders, making your partner beg for sex and even incorporating erotic teasing or tickling.

Cuckolding

Cuckolding is a well-liked kinky sexual practice where a man or woman finds sexual gratification in watching their partner have sex with another person in front of them.

While the cuckoldress assumes the dominant role as the individual having sex with another person, the cuck finds gratification in seeing their partner engage in all types of sex acts.

Having other parties involved in your sexual kink is undoubtedly not new. From threesomes to orgies and even swinger parties, group sex is an excellent way for couples to explore their sexual interests.

It's important to note that whenever you introduce new people into your relationship, there needs to be a level of trust for all parties involved.

So long as you and your partner have discussed your boundaries, cuckolding can be an exciting way to spice things up.

Dominance and Submission

As another form of BDSM, dominance and submission focuses on the flow of power and energy between two people. The dominant partner can explore the submissive partner's deepest desires, thoughts and feelings through physical and emotional sex acts.

Dominant and submission can incorporate outfits and sex toys such as latex suits, collars, leashes and whips to further enhance the power dynamic between two individuals.

Relationship expert Dr. Megan Fleming [3] explains that while men and women can enjoy assuming either role, women are more likely to want to be seduced and dominated in the bedroom. The idea of letting go and losing all control to the man can be an erotic turn-on for many women.

Humiliation Play

Humiliation plays an essential role in the power play dynamic of BDSM scenarios. Humiliation play describes the kink that a person has to become embarrassed or consensually shamed by their partner. That is commonly explored through role-play or cuckolding.

Types of humiliation play:

1. Verbal humiliation (i.e. belittlement, insults, degrading references, etc.)
2. Physical degradation (i.e walking like a dog on all fours, kissing the dominant partner's hands or shoes, getting slapped, whipped or spanked in a public place, etc.)

Impact Play

Impact play is all about mixing pain with pleasure. This type of kink involves slapping or spanking your partner with a toy, prop or even your hand. From light spanking to intense whipping, impact pain inflicts pain and discomfort on your partner for erotic gratification.

During impact play, it's important to use your safe word when necessary. That can help you and your partner recognize your boundaries and pain tolerance to make the kink more enjoyable.

Sensory Deprivation

Sensory deprivation is another great kinky sex idea to explore. This technique involves removing one sense to enhance the others.

For example, using a blindfold or earplugs during sex can help intensify your partner's touch across your body and lead to more stimulating sex and orgasms.

This type of kinky sex is an excellent starting point when you first begin to explore kinky sex or BDSM since it can quickly move into more erotic forms such as bondage, impact play or humiliation.

Exhibitionism

Exhibitionism is a word to describe a person's sexual fantasies of being seen naked or engaging in sexual activity in public.

Whether this means engaging in public sex at a beach or giving oral sex in front of guests in your own home, exhibitionism can be a thrilling and pleasurable kink for many.

Although risky, this type of kink is very common.

According to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, professor of human psychology, a recent review on unusual sexual fantasies reports that 66% of men and 57% of women fantasize about having sex in public or other "unusual" places such as a public bathroom, work office and so on.

Masochism and Sadism

As a form of BDSM, masochism and sadism can shift the power dynamics in the bedroom and embrace the relationship between pain and pleasure.

Masochists derive their sexual pleasure from receiving physical pain or humiliation, while sadists enjoy inflicting pain on others.

There's also such a thing as a sadomasochist who likes receiving and inflicting pain.

Role-Playing

Role-playing is a very common kink that can be expressed in many forms. No matter how sexually adventurous you and your partner may be, role-playing can help you experience a wide range of fantasies.

Role-play often involves costumes acting out a role or a scenario to elicit sexual arousal. Some classic examples that involve a dominant and submissive role include student-teacher, doctor-nurse, pilot-flight attendant, and boss-employee.

Kinky Sex Positions

Heels Over Head

This position is excellent for deep and rough penetrative sex. To get into this position, the woman will lie on her back with her legs spread wide open. The man will then grab her ankles and raise her legs towards the roof. The more flexible the woman is, the more the man can force her into submission.

To make this position even kinkier, you can use restraints to tie the woman's legs up near her head to hold her in place during penetration.

Standing Wheelbarrow

The woman will start on all fours to enter the standing wheelbarrow position while the man stands behind her.

The man will lift her by her hips and let her straddle his waist with her legs. While the woman is in a handstand position, her partner can hold her body against his as he thrusts into her.

Reverse Cowgirl

While you may be familiar with the cowgirl sex position, this variation will surely excite your kinky desires.

The man will begin by laying flat on his back. The woman will then straddle his body with her head facing his feet. As she lowers down into a kneeling position, she controls the pace, depth and angle of penetration.

Up Against a Wall

If you want to mix in a workout with sex, this is a perfect position.

From a standing position, the man will pick up his partner with his arms and push her back against the wall. As the woman wraps her legs around his hips, the man will grip onto her body during penetration.

Much like the hot and heavy scene in Fifty Shades of Grey, this position is perfect when you feel frisky. No need to make it to the bedroom when you can start engaging in passionate sex the moment you enter your home.

The Kinky Octopus

The octopus is a fantastic kinky position that can be used for either vaginal or anal sex.

The man will sit on the floor with his knees bent and legs spread. The woman will then sit in between the man's legs and rest her legs over her partner's shoulders. As the man thrusts at an upward angle, the woman may experience intense g spot stimulation.

Turning up the kink (and pleasure), the woman can use one hand to massage her clitoris, all while making intimate eye contact with her partner. Together, this can stimulate an intense orgasm for all parties involved.

Kinky Sex Toys

There is a wide selection of kinky sex toys available to help spice up your sex life and introduce different forms of stimulation for both men and women.

Toys for power play, role-playing, humiliation and impact play:

• Nipple clamps
• Paddles
• Crops
• Whips
• Spin/spike wheel

Toys for bondage and surrendering control:

• Blindfolds
• Handcuffs
• Gag ball
• Rope restraints

Other kinky sex toys for foreplay, oral sex and penetration:

• Anal resonator
• Butt plugs
• Vibrators
• Dildos