Matters of the mind and matters of the bedroom are more intertwined than you think!
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When you think about what elements are required for a banging sex life, you probably think about a penis and vagina, don’t you? You horndog. Believe it or not, the most important thing is the brain! A lot of our sex life actually happens in the depths of our synapses because our brain controls our feelings and thoughts which is essential for stimulation and keeping stimulated.

So, with the discussion of mental health on the rise, we cannot ignore the fact that mental illness is a very real health issue, that not only affects our physical and mental well-being, but also our sexual wellbeing.

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According to the Victorian government, around half of us will struggle with our mental health in our lifetime. And that’s a shit tonne of us [1]. 

So even if mental illness doesn’t directly affect you, there’s a high probability that it will affect someone you know or love- like a sexual partner. It should come as no surprise that mental health issues harm how one views themselves, which often results in feeling undesirable to partners, feeling unworthy of sexual attention, and reducing self-esteem to the point that it affects the intimacy and closeness of a relationship

For many people dealing with a mental health problem, sex is often the last thing on their list of priorities. At the other end of the spectrum, many experts claim that people undergoing mental health struggles are more likely to engage in riskier sexual behavior and lose interest in having sex with their steady partner. Dealing with mental health problems such as stress, anxiety, depression, and the effects of past sexual trauma may also lead to sexual difficulties such as erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety.

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To answer the mystery of our headline, what your mental health is saying about your sexual health is basically everything. One informs the other, and if the balls drop on one, the balls drop on the other. But, as always, the cure to what ails you is chatting it out. Allying with your partner and opening lines of communication is crucial when either of you are having a “bad mental health day”. Some potential activities to get help restore some friskyness without the pressure of sex are back rubs, intimate massages, hugging, or just holding each other as naked as the day you were born.

Our big final point is that it’s important to understand that the state of a person’s mental health is the thing getting in the way of engaging or enjoying sex, not the person itself. If you focus on your connection with your partner, you’ll both find yourself in a better f***ing world.

Our article on the 9 Ways To Improve Sexual Performance is not only entertaining reading, but fairly insightful, outlining the top ways that can help you last longer.

[1] Australian Bureau of Statistics. (2009). National Survey of Mental Health and Wellbeing: Summary of Results, 4326.0, 2007. ABS: Canberra.
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